I was cruising Facebook today and came across the following video Girl Forced From Bathroom and I had quite a few emotions and feelings, so blogging it is. All of you have seen, met, or know my wife. Saying that she wasn’t very feminine would be an understatement. Throughout the time that we have been married, engaged, dating, and living together; she has been called my son (holy crap do I look that old?!), my brother, my husband, my friend, sir, dude, man, homie, etc. It has happened quite a few times in our relationship. I normally laugh it off, except the son one, pretty sure I cried and looked for gray hair and wrinkles!) and realize, that I could understand why people would assume that. She doesn’t show her curves, she dresses in male clothes from head to toe, and her hair is super short. If she doesn’t talk, you would assume man. She comes home from work and laughs telling me about women that hit on her and men who “Bro” her. It isn’t a big deal. Watching this video though…it really got me upset. First of all, who freaking cares how someone goes to the bathroom to pee and poop. Is is really that big of a deal? The country is up in arms about it and I find it kind of nutso. If a man, dressed as a woman, comes to the ladies room he is going to see…..NOTHING…..stall doors, that’s it. Nothing more…stall doors and ladies in line (because let’s face it y’all we take for freaking ever in there), and people hopefully washing their hands. Nothing more. If a man who still has his nether regions but identifies as female and is dressed so wants to come and take a poo next to me in the other stall, I could care less. I don’t care where anyone take a pee or a poo as long as it is not on me and I don’t have to see anyone’s nether regions. As for a female going in the mens room, once again is she identifies as male and wants to use the mens restroom by all means. I mean who would want to though, they are usually stinky and gross!! But if you want to why not, there are stalls for sitting. If by chance you walk behind the people at the urinal, do you really look? No, I don’t think so. I am pretty sure I have heard that “guy code” says you don’t look….I don’t know that for sure though.

 

Back on task….I worry about my wife. I worry that she is going to go to the bathroom somewhere and someone is going to behave this way towards her. I loved that in the video most women were telling them that it was a female, that she was allowed to be there, that they shouldn’t put their hands on her, that she was a FEMALE. They continued to forcefully remove her from the bathroom. They asked her for her ID. Okay, another reason I worry about my wife. She never has her license and as long as she isn’t driving she really doesn’t have to have it. So I don’t fight her on it. But in this case, what if she went to the bathroom in the mall, standing in line, someone is like OMG there is a man in here, and freaks out. Starts a big ruckus, and the wife doesn’t have her license to say, hey, I am a chick I can be here. Are they going to rough her up? Are they going to yell at her and force her out of the bathroom? Are they going to do that in front of my children who are more than likely going to be with her? What is that going to say to my kids? That just because she looks like a man she isn’t allowed to be in the bathroom? The wife has no desire to change her genitalia, she is happy being a woman, except once a month, but for the most part happy with it. She is also just more comfortable in the clothes she wears than the ones I wear. She would be miserable with a real under-wire bra, or women tops that show cleavage, and women’s shorts that tend to be short and tight. It would be the end of her to have to wear that stuff. What if a dress like a slobby boy one day and go to the store and it happens to me. I would have probably flashed the cop and been like these are mine. God gave em to me for my birthday! (Don’t worry mom, I won’t flash a cop) But how do prove that sort of thing? I have been in bathrooms where everyone is allowed in, men women children old people dogs etc. They can all use the bathroom…because all you are going to do is pee or poop and there are doors that separate everything. In this instance the entire bathroom was informing the male security that she was a female. I think women have a sick sense about it. They knew she was a girl. Had the female security guard paid attention, she would have realized too. I just don’t want something like this to happen to the wife.There are so many things wrong with this whole situation. Mainly I am concerned with the entire nation worrying about where someone wants to use the potty. I am lucky I get any of our kids to aim for the bowl or wash their hands, I really don’t care if they want to do it in the stall next to me as long as I don’t have to see it. Because let’s be honest, we don’t want anyone to be seeing what we do in the bathroom…

I know that this topic can be controversial but do keep in mind these are my thoughts and opinion….sorry if I offend anyone or make anyone mad…

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